The first month with your newborn baby is full of an abundance of emotions. It can be easy to get caught up in these emotions and feel overwhelmed. But it is an exciting time that should be cherished. I loved becoming a mother and spending time with my little boy! It was also a huge adjustment. Here are my top 7 tips for how to fully enjoy your first month with your sweet baby:
Have Realistic Expectations
Having a newborn baby is a lot of work. They take up a LOT of your time. So I think it’s important to remember that things won’t quite be the same. You won’t have as much free time as you might have had before. You also won’t have a whole lot of energy the first month, as you are recovering from giving birth. It takes time for your body to heal. You may be exhausted while getting used to your baby’s sleep schedule. And that is OK. No one is expecting you to be up and about right away after giving birth, so you shouldn’t expect it either.
Accept Help From Others
This is one that I have always struggled with. But it’s so important to accept help from others. If a friend wants to bring you dinner, or a family member wants to hold your baby while you do the dishes, say YES. Loved ones will want to help as much as possible that first month as you are adjusting. It is so nice to not have to make dinner or have one less chore on your to-do list. That gives you more time to rest and bond with your baby.
Prepare Ahead Of Time
There are plenty of things you can do before your baby is born to help you be prepared. You can make freezer meals, or just buy store bought ones. Stock up on essential items, like toilet paper and shampoo. Get the nursery ready. Wash all your baby clothes. Gather items for your postpartum kits. Doing these things will also help the time pass by when you start nesting towards the end of your pregnancy.
Sleep When Your Baby Sleeps
Labor and delivery is hard work! And as soon as that is all over you have a brand new baby to take care of. Do you really get a break? Not really. The best advice I was given was to sleep when your baby sleeps. You will be exhausted between recovering and taking care of your newborn. I totally understand wanting to get things done while your baby is sleeping. There will be plenty of time for that later on. For the first few weeks, take advantage of this time to rest. Your body needs it.
Bond With Your Newborn
This first month is the best time to start forming a bond with your baby. They want to feel close to you. Enjoy spending time holding your little one in your arms. Talk to them and interact. It’s OK to be selfish and want to hold your newborn as much as possible.
Spend Time With Your Spouse
I know it can really easy for both of you to get caught up in your baby. You are so excited about your new arrival, and both focused on taking care of your newborn. Make sure you still have time for each other. When your baby is sleeping take advantage of that time to spend quality time together. You both need it. Your relationship is still important. Do fun things together, as a couple and with your baby.
Be Patient With Yourself
Be patient with yourself as you are adjusting to your new life. Don’t expect yourself to be the perfect mother 24/7. It takes time to learn what your baby needs and how you can be the best mother possible. Also be patient with your body as it is recovering. It can be a slow and painful process. So don’t expect yourself to feel completely back to normal right away. If you feel you are struggling with post partum depression or the baby blues don’t be afraid to talk to someone. It is perfectly normal to have a lot of different emotions as your estrogen levels are still very high.
In conclusion, you will look back and realize how fast the first month went by. Time will continue to fly by. So enjoy every little moment. 🙂